All Eyes on Me

Do you ever have those mornings where you wake up and look at yourself in the mirror and think “DAMN…I look good”? It’s those moments where you can really admire your “au naturel” with no make up and beautiful naked body. It’s when you can look at yourself and truly admire your every curve, all the scars, every muscle and every roll. It’s the inner Beyonce moments when you can say “I woke up like this” and feel really beautiful within your own skin. Society has made it hard for women to be accepting of their bodies and to love themselves for what God has given them. Hollywood will tell you what is “the perfect body” and how a woman should look. When someone is always telling you how you should look and what makes you beautiful, it tends to make women insecure and judgemental. The biggest critic you will ever have is always yourself. There will always be someone who will make you feel like you’re not pretty enough, not smart enough, not rich enough or whatever makes you feel insecure. This is not true. Every woman is enough. Whatever the case. Nothing is more sexy than a confident woman. Someone who not only believes that she is enough but owns it. Whatever your shape or size, being a woman is beautiful.

I can admit there are days when I feel ugly, insecure and worthless but I think as human beings it’s normal to feel like that once in a while. Just as long as it’s a passing thought and you don’t stay there. I think it is important to work on oneself from the inside out. Learning to love oneself is the key step to allowing others to love you. If you cannot love yourself, how can you expect others to love you. Building a strong body and mind will develop a positive outlook on life. Once you start to look good on the outside you ultimately will feel good on the inside. Not saying you have to exercise until you are blue in the face. If you can’t look at yourself in the mirror and truly love yourself, all the hard work is for nothing and wasted. I think being confident means having to work hard for it. I would never just sit around hoping for someone else to make me feel pretty, strong or that I’m enough. If I want to feel confident and truly be confident, I need to work at it. Whether if I’m working out, doing meditations, eating right, being social or any practice that promotes self love. I am working for it. I wake up grateful every morning and am constantly reminding myself I am confident and beautiful. The mind will always try to negative self talk or be judgemental. It’s just knowing when to listen and when to ignore the self talk banter.

I am always learning ways to better myself by taking courses, reading, watching material that will guide me to understanding myself and being a woman. I am surrounded by a lot of like minded women who have positive outlooks on life. I really love when girlfriends will send me something and say “I found this and thought you would enjoy it.” I was introduced to the Mastering your Magnetism series by a really great friend. It’s an online course for women on how to embody the feminine brilliance. Nowadays there’s lots of women who are strong, confident and sexy who seem to have it all figured out. From building a career, to raising a family or having a loving relationship they are putting in the work to make it happen. The problem is that being so driven becomes too much male brain dominated. Women tend to lose their feminine essence when they are too goal oriented. There needs to be a balance. Being able to be driven without escaping the feminine brain. Men are wired to think from the head. Male brain qualities tend to be more action takers, providers, giving, producing, problem solving, single focused tasks and goal oriented. Females are wired to think with the body. Female brain qualities include receiving, emotions, intuition, connection, radiance, life force and creativity. I have completed the Mastering your Magnetism series a few times. I think there is always something I can learn about being more feminine. The program has also taught me about Understanding the Modern Man and learning how to be Confidently Sexy. Just like exercise for the body, you have to work for it. So why wouldn’t being confidently sexy be any different? I have really noticed a difference with my approach with men and how the perceive me. I feel like whenever I enter a room that all eyes are on me. I recently went to my local coffee shop for my favourite morning brew. I sat down at a corner table so I could look out the window. There were all these empty tables in the coffee shop but 3 groups of men all sat down around me. The table behind me sits two men. The table in front of me sits four men. The table to my right has another two men. Of all the tables in the coffee shop why did all the men choose to sit around me? Why? I think I must be giving off some pretty strong sexual feminine pheromones. I may not be the most beautiful person in the world but I think and believe I am. Confidence is sexy and men know when a woman is truly confident in herself. Fake it until you make it.

Being a woman with a very strong personality tends to push men away. I am learning to not compete with men but to be more captivating. I am learning to take on a more softer approach rather than being overly aggressive. I am learning to be more sensual and to honour my beauty. It’s important for women to have a strong group of girlfriends who will support her in life. Behind every successful woman lies a tribe of women who have her back. That is why it is important for women to build each other up without criticising or judgements. A truly confidently sexy woman is a woman who does not put down other women but empowers other women. Confidently sexy starts with loving yourself and radiating goodness onto others. Kindness doesn’t cost a damn thing so sprinkle that shit everywhere! Tell someone they are beautiful today. Hot diggity damn you are a beautiful woman!

Resources :

Lauren Joyce http://www.themagneticwoman.com

*images taken from internet except photo of myself*