I’m not sure how to write this without offending someone or making someone upset. I believe “it’s better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie.” I will try my best to be uplifting but consider this a cold hard reality check. There will be times in your life where you just have to walk away. Whether it’s a situation like leaving a job that you are unhappy with, ending a long time friendship or walking away from a relationship it must be done.
Let’s talk about working a job that’s actually depleting your physical health. Say you are working this corporate job and though it may seem great because you have all these wonderful health benefits and weekend offs. But you ultimately are not happy. Reality is you have insane amounts of work in short time deadlines and the stress starts affecting your health. You get sick physically and cannot keep up your everyday life that is not work for example family time or making time for yourself. Why do you want to live and die work? That does not sound like fun to me.
Life is short and I fully believe if you are not passionate about what you are doing you should quit. I know so many people who have left the corporate world to fulfill their true purpose on this earth and are much happier for doing so. I may not be the richest woman but at least I love what I do. I am happy to live a life without work stress.
Alright so say you have this friend and is someone you thought you’d be friends with forever, but now you don’t mesh well together. Maybe one of you has decided to grow up and has other interests. Sometimes one friend has become so negatively toxic and you no longer want to always have to be their shoulder to cry on. Friendships change when there’s lack of support and loyalty. It’s perfectly normal for friends to grow apart. You should not feel guilty or feel you need to stick around for their benefit. This may sound harsh but you need to live your life the way you intend to live it.
Cut those cords from anyone who cannot meet you at your level. This includes family members not just friends. I surround myself with positive, like minded friends and family. The people in my life are lucky because I usually love them like I love my own family. If you know me…you know I love my family a lot! Choose your friends wisely and you’ll live a harmonious life too.
Lastly let’s talk relationship. Maybe you’re dating someone or married for that matter but you are not happy anymore. In any relationship whether it’s romantic or friendship, people change. Fighting or arguing is normal in any relationship but once you start to feel worthless or defeated it’s time to move on. Everyone deserves to be loved and appreciated. This goes for both sides if you cannot love someone the way they deserve to be treated maybe you’re not meant to be together. Why try and force a relationship if it’s truly not meant to be? Love should be easy and you and your partner should be aligned in life and love.
So take this advice as a grain of salt and do with it as you please. But if you are not living YOUR life the way you absolutely should be living it…who are you living for? Yes you can stay in that job that will probably shorten your life. Yes you can stay friends with that friend who causing so much pain in your heart. Yes you can stay in that relationship with that partner who doesn’t know your worth. Because in the end it’s your happiness that matters. What are you really willing to sacrifice for your happiness? You can be happy and love life to its highest potential or you can live life until you die.
The choice is yours…you do you boo.
Quote and image from Paulo Coelho
Memoirs of an Emotional Fish 